Tuesday, 22 November 2016

Do You VASELINE? 10 Real Reasons You Need this Stuff in Your Life

Vaseline?! you ask … VASELINE I reply, nodding my head oh so very sagely. And now I'm going to tell you WHY it is one of the best, most versatile products with exceptional properties, out there.

Very succinctly, it

  • Locks moisture into dry and damaged skin, and speeds up skin’s natural recovery process, helping it to heal from within;
  • Reduces the appearance of fine, dry lines, and protect your skin and lips against dryness and chapping;
  • Is triple purified, non-irritating and hypo-allergenic, making it entirely safe for the whole family to use; and
  • Tests conducted by experts from the Journal of Cosmetic Science verify that Vaseline is non-comedogenic which means that it does not clog pores, irritate skin, or cause acne.

That was a snapshot of some of Vaseline’s life-enhancing properties. Keep reading for some truly genius reasons you need it in your everyday life.

Eye Makeup Remover 
Vaseline gently removes eyeliner, mascara, shadow and even any eyelash glue that your falsies leave behind. 

2. Smooth Cracked Heels 
Smooth Vaseline into dry cracked heels or elbows, slip on a pair of socks, go to sleep and wake up to healthy, hydrated skin.

3. Highlighter
Swap your highlighter for Vaseline. Dab a small amount on the high points of your face for a dewy, naturally luminous glow and you’re good to go.

4. No-Mess Manicure
Apply Vaseline to your cuticles before polishing your nails to keep colour off of the skin around your nails. You’ll get a perfect manicure—minus the clean-up.

5. Face Cream
Run out of moisturiser? Smooth a tiny amount of Vaseline onto your fingertips and use to moisturise your face. Vaseline is non-comedogenic and won’t clog pores or cause a breakout.

6. Smooth Hair
Use Vaseline to tame frizz and seal dry split ends and even to keep unruly eyebrows in place.

7. DIY Scrub
Dry lips? Add a bit of sugar to your Vaseline to make your own lip scrub. Or mix it with sea salt, and use the mixture in the shower as a body scrub with moisturising benefits.

8. From Powder to Cream
Transform your loose eye shadows/ blushers and bronzers into cream formulas by mixing them with Vaseline. You can also make a tinted lip balm this way.

9. Cuticle Cream
Use a bead of Vaseline and massage into your scraggly cuticles to soften and soothe them.

10. Prevent Hair dye Stain
Dab Vaseline along your hairline, onto your ears and the back of your neck to prevent hair dye from staining your skin.

Just for the record, I've not been sponsored by Vaseline ... I just really like the stuff :)

Thursday, 17 November 2016

What is Your Life's Purpose?


A friend of mine recently identified his life's purpose.

Within hours I saw him transform from someone dabbling at something he loved, to a man on a mission. Fascinated, I watched as over a really short period of time, I'm talking days, his vision began to take shape. The whole universe, it seemed, was conspiring to help him.
 How exactly I don't know, but the results themselves were indisputable. Help and opportunities seemed to come from the most unexpected places, often without him even looking for it. The Law of Attraction was hard at work, and my friend I'm humbled to say, is just a hair's breath away from living to his full purpose... It takes my breath away.

This got me thinking about My Life's Purpose. At almost 40, I have yet to identify what it is. This is not a judgement - we arrive at our answers precisely when we're meant to, so if now is my time, then ... now is my time.

Research on how to Discover Your Life's Purpose lead me to countless approaches, some more involved than others. Simple works for me so this is the approach I chose. I thought we could do it together!

Here Is How to Discover your Life Purpose in 4 Steps

  1. Use a blank page or a word processor. 
  2. Write or type “What is my true purpose in life?”.
  3. Jot down any answer that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.
  4. Repeat Step 3 until you arrive at the answer that makes you cry. 
It is as simple as that. Keep at it until the answer finally arrives. You may find it is a combination of answers. It could take 15 minutes or hours, but you will recognize it when it arrives by the way the words vibrate and resonate with you.

THIS is your purpose in life.

I'll be sharing my Life's Purpose with you in my next post, and I would love it if you shared yours with me.


... The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away ...

Friday, 2 September 2016

INTERVIEW - Lay Roo on his latest single Beautiful Sooperstar ft Mr jAZ

You Guys!

Sooooooo, I recently had the huuuge crazy pleasure of interviewing Rapper/ Hip Hop artist Lay Roo while on set filming the music video for his latest single Beautiful Sooperstar, which just so happens to feature the smooth vocals of my boo, Roeshdien - Mr jAZ.

Killer!!! Killer song and such great guys. I had so much fun. And Beautiful Sooperstar ... this song... do yourself a favour and have a listen. I'm posting the links to it on iTunes, Soundcloud and Google Play Music Store right here. You can thank me later :)

As for sooperhero Lay Roo, here's what he's got to say about it.

Lay Roo, the sooperhero himself

What's Beautiful Sooperstar about?
Love. It’s about a guy trying to understand what has him so mesmerised by his girlfriend, until he realises that it’s the sweet little things she does that makes him fall so madly in love with her. I learned a lot from previous relationships and along the way, I discovered that love is all about the little things.

How is it different to your other work?

It’s very different! I’m no stranger to fusing genres but I’ve never really done anything with Jazz before. I wanted to reach a new audience; an audience who generally is not a fan of hip-hip and try to “change their minds”.

How did Mr jAZ come to be on board?
I started working with Mr. Mallum on Crazy Sooper Hero Dreams and we needed a hook for this song. He suggested that Mr. jAZ would be perfect. The moment jAZ wrote those lyrics and laid down those vocals…oooooo!

When did you record it and who produced it?
We recorded it on Christmas eve back in 2012. It was produced by Ebrahim Mallum.

Album Cover of Lay Roo's single Jimi Hendrix

Why hip hop?
Because I can’t sing!I joke! I joke! When I first started listening to NWA, KRS One, LL Cool J, Public Enemy, Snoop, Cypress Hill, The Fresh Prince and P.O.C, to name a few…there was just something about it ... love at first bar! I was actually born with a speech impediment so I couldn’t really express myself. I started writing poetry in order to do so and they later turned into songs. Hip hop is the medium that speaks to my songs.

What do you think is the biggest challenge facing hip hop artists in SA?
Rap always get a bad rap. There are so many challenges and they’re all big. But hip hop still has this ‘negative stigma’ or dark cloud hanging over it. Maybe because there’s so much truth in what we are saying in our music, and it strikes a nerve.

Where do you generally draw your inspiration from?
Life, and the things that I see going on around me, Sooperhero characters and the things that I’ve been through or am still going through in life. I get the craziest ideas after a training session.

Lay Roo showing off his fit self

You're pretty fit. What's that about and why is it so important to you?
I used to play a lot of sport but when I got older, I picked up some injuries and some bad habits, and became quite unfit. I found it hard to write but that all changed once I embraced a healthy lifestyle. So many childhood dreams of mine have already come true because of fitness.

Why sooperhero with 2 oo's? 
The two o’s are actually two smiley faces. The first smiley represents the good and the 2nd, the bad. We all have good and bad within us, even Sooperheroes have flaws, we just have to make sure that we live our lives with the scale tipping in favour of the good.

Who is your sooperhero?
I have many. All my life I looked up to these heroes and I still do but if I can quote one of my favourites - Bruce Lee, “Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own!" So that’s what I did. I learned something from each one of them and added my own.

What are your crazy sooperhero dreams and what's next for Lay Roo?
I’ve got enormous dreams and I am only just getting started! I don’t want to give away my next move but what I can tell you is that I’ve just returned from Europe and am getting ready to launch the first Crazy Sooperhero Dreams EP.

Want to know more?
Find Lay Roo on Facebook, Twitter, Insta and book him HERE.

Monday, 30 May 2016

TABLE MOUNTAIN, CAPE TOWN - A Lifelong Love Affair

My friends

I found these this morning ... 3 little lover's notes I had penned to iconic
Table Mountain, more than 10 years ago

(photo credit Brendon Wainwright)

Made me wonder how I ever thought I could stay away, make my home elsewhere when every time I raise my eyes, I always hope to lay them on the world's most beautiful table, when with every breath its slopes tell me I'm home.... my lifelong love affair. 

I hope you enjoy!

Love love love
Amiena xxx

(photo credit koosrossouw)

Obscured in mist
So dense I would loose myself were I to navigate.
Unearthly beauty beckons.
As with all things most dangerous
you whisper coldly for me to follow, invite me within.
And I am drawn as upon weightless clouds to enter
into your midst, knowing well that despair must follow.

And you are temptation, ethereal whispers, snatches
of long ago songs, half glimpsed shadows, …surreal

(penned on a cold winter's morning as Table Mountain lay hidden, shrouded in mist. Utterly, seduced)


(photo credit Kate Goss)
To God’s door
Above the clouds where angels sigh
Sunlight strokes our faces, is captured in light
And we alone wander amidst aching beauty
Almost undone by the otherworldliness of this place
Till our souls, transcendent, are awash with closeness.
And beyond welcoming waters, obscured by earths hold
Yet clear to the unchained, eternity beckons.
Here is where questing has led us, to Gods door.

Awash with reverence, wondered sighs to the Cherisher,
And all I am capable of, all I am made of, is this moment.

(a hike up to the dams after a week of heavy rains and the landscape so beautiful and transformed, it felt as if we had been transported to a different plane)


Table Mountain
I saw you burn, go up in flames
Wild winds raged, stoking your fires
Angry and immortal like the battles above great Olympus.
And no opposing force could stand in their path to diverge your destiny.

Nights and mornings untold rained down your black tears
Into hair, homes, dreams, into every crevice
clogging all thought and slowing our steps.

And you in your palanquin of mist, lay hidden while we watched scared,
waiting to see how you would end, dreading, dying for
the charred husk, all that remained of your ravishment.

(thoughts and fears as I watched Table Mountain burn, its ashes carried by the wind darkening the sky, making us choke, breaking my heart)

Thursday, 26 May 2016


I've always wanted bigger eyes. Always. I've thought about it loads, and I've decided that we've got Disney to blame for it. Think about it ... can you mention a single Disney princess (except for Mulan, that is) who doesn't have huge sparkling languid eyes? … Exactly!

Anyhow, that's what today's tutorial is all about, I'm going to show you 7 foolproof tips for creating BIG Beautiful Bambi Eyes.

Dark circles make your eyes look tired and small. Gently apply concealer, I use LA Covergirl HD Pro Concealer or NYX full coverage HD concealer, in a triangular shape into your undereye area. Set with translucent powder. 

Apply a champagne-coloured eyeshadow into the inner corner of your eyes - next to your tear duct, and entire eyelid.

Grab a small fluffy brush and using a back and forth windscreen wiper motion, lightly sweep a medium brown matte eyeshadow just above the crease of your eyelid, and blend well. By blending it slightly above your crease (instead of in the crease) you're creating the illusion of a bigger, rounder eye.

Do not line your waterline with black eye khol (see right eye) - it'll shrink the size of your eye faster than you can say eek! Use a nude eye pencil instead and it'll double the size of your eyes (left eye) by making the whites of your eyes appear bigger. I swear swear swear by NYX Wonder Pencil. Absolute miracle.

Grab a dark brown eyeliner or dip a small flat brush into a matte dark brown eye shadow and apply it just above your top lashes. Starting from the outside edge and working your way to the middle, do the same beneath your lower lashline to make your eyes look rounder. Blend to soften.

Use a liquid or gel liner to line your lop lid and create a wing. This'll make your eye's look a lot wider.

Apply mascara to both your top and bottom lashes. Mascara opens up your eyes, creating the impression of a rounder eye, giving you a wide eyed look. 

.... And helloooooo big bambi eyes!

Try it out and let me know if it works for you. Have I forgotten anything? Drop me a line if I have, and don't forget to like, comment and subscribe.

Love ya!


Tuesday, 19 April 2016


In my 20's magazines were always telling me that I was too young to wear a red lip ... I wore it anyway. Now years later everyone, and I mean everyone no matter what their age, is wearing it and it's brilliant!

The thing about a red lip though, is that you may as well be wearing a flashing neon sign on your head because it brings your whole face under scrutiny!  But, wear it you MUST so I've gone and pulled videos from three of my very favourite youtube makeup artist and put together a quick step-by-step on How to Get The Perfect Red Lip. 

Enjoy enjoy enjoy, and don't forget to like, comment and subscribe!

1. FACE 
Moisturise, prime and apply foundation to create an even toned skin.  If all you're needing is light coverage, you can get by with a bb cream. Blemishes or discolorations will need a medium to full coverage. Apply with a beauty blender for a smooth flawless finish and set with translucent powder.


Yes to brows! Trust me, you need them to create balance as a red lip will draw focus to the bottom half of your face and leave the rest of you drifting out there in deep space. So weed out any stray hairs with wax or a tweezer and use a matte eyeshadow or eyebrow kit to fill in any sparse bits. Apply your brow shadow sparingly in the direction of the hair growth.  
VIDEO - Easy Eyebrow Tutorial


Keep them simple. For everyday daytime a pale/ nude eye shadow on your lids, simple cat eye and mascara are more than sufficient to play up your red lip. For night time, think bronze eye shadow, cat eye and several coats of mascara.
VIDEO - Simple Cat Eye Tutorial 


Blush and Bronze. A blank face with a red slash where your mouth is, is scary so sweep a light dusting of blush onto the apples of your cheeks, and bronzer along your cheekbones to add warmth to your face
VIDEO - How to apply blush and bronzer 

Chapped, cracked or dry lips are a red lipstick nightmare, and look painful. Smooth on lip balm ahead of time. Really pat it in and once absorbed, plonk on  some more and let it sink in. Then blot off the excess and use an old toothbrush to gently remove the dry, cracked skin. Now FINALLY you can apply your lipstick. Go on, get it on and pucker up!
VIDEO - Bold Red Lip

Love ya!



Friday, 8 April 2016


On dating after 4 years
and why it only lasted 4 months

When my marriage ended, I thought that was it as far as allowing anyone close to me ever again. It took 4 years to recover from it emotionally. And then one day, some ten months ago I looked up and started noticing things again. Friends and family began saying it's time you met someone, you have so much love to give.

I joined an online dating website and met a charismatic man. We chatted for 2 months, met in person, hit it off and dated for 4 months. In that short space of time we broke up 5 times.

I ended it each time because he would fly off the handle when he couldn't reach me, became verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive, raged that I treated him like an option not a priority, and repeatedly accused me of seeing, dating, sleeping with scores of other men.

Each time he swore it wouldn't happen again. But of course it did. Again and again. That's when I realised I was in a relationship with a 'Controller', so I took back control and ended it for good.

Looking back there were definite signs that he was a 'Controller'. They're easy to spot if you know what to look out for. Acquaint yourself with the signs and help raise awareness or warn those you care about against entering into relationships with individuals exhibiting these disturbing traits.


1. Love at first sight
He wants to get serious immediately. Wants to date exclusively after just one date and proposes marriage after two months. This is not normal or healthy behaviour. Healthy relationships need time to develop and grow.

2. Overwhelms you
He is extremely attentive and showers you with gifts and is always available to you. He offers to take charge of all your issues or problems like a knight in shining armour. Too good to be true? It is.

3. Has to be involved in everything
He wants to control every aspect of your life. He checks up on you all day, wants to know where you are, who you're with, what you're doing, what you're discussing. Eventually, he tells you that you can't talk to certain friends, or talk about certain issues in public.

4. Isolates you
He makes you feel guilty when you're out with friends, enjoying time with your family or experiencing something without him so that eventually you cut down, or in some cases even stop seeing friends or family altogether.

5. Mean and Sweet Cycle
He is wonderfully attentive and sweet one moment, so loving that you believe you've met your soulmate, only to follow it up, almost immediately, with behaviour so deviant, hurtful and mean that you're left reeling and wondering if it is the same person.

6. Explosive Temper
He has a very bad temper and becomes enraged when you don't react or behave in a certain way, or things don't turn out according to his plan.

7. Kills your confidence
He critisises everything you do and works hard to break your self esteem by constantly putting you down or questioning your actions. You end up “walking on eggshells” always fearing you are doing or saying something that will create a temper outburst or argument. Instead of experiencing the warmth and comfort of love, you're constantly on edge.

8. It’s Never Enough
He complains that you don’t appreciate him enough, stand close enough, are not affectionate enough, committed enough, don’t do enough for him after all his sacrifices, and your behavior always falls short of what is expected.

9. Discounts Feelings/Opinions
He doesn't respect or acknowledge your opinions, feelings, decisions or choices, yet hates it when you dare question him, and reacts with outright anger or rage when his behavior is criticised.

10. It's always your fault
He blames you for his anger. It's your fault that he embarrassed you in public, drove so fast, drank too much, or assaults an innocent bystander. if you had not said that, smiled at that waiter when he took your order, or questioned his behavior, it wouldn't have happened.

11. YOU start acting 'crazy'
He has you so on edge that you find yourself doing “crazy” things in self-defense. You become paranoid, or find yourself screaming or swearing when you can't bear the stress of it anymore.

12. Insane breakup
You end the relationship and he goes to pieces, breaks down and cries, begs and pleads. Promises to change, threatens to commit suicide, to quit his job and leave the area. Stalks you, harasses you with phone calls, sends flowers and gifts, or offers a wedding ring.

Get out
It takes a long time and immense effort to change a 'Controller', and the possibility that he may never change is huge because he simply doesn't see fault with anything he does. I didn't mention physical abuse because I didn't experience it, but many 'Controllers' do become violent and the longer you stay, the stronger the possibility of him abusing you physically becomes. In extreme cases, 'Controllers' have been known to kill their partners.

If you go back, you're back in his grasp, effectively a prisoner and escape next time, will be three times as difficult.

Don't let it happen to you or anyone you care about. Recognise the signs, take back control and get out.


*** Don't forget to like, comment and subscribe. And if you know of any other signs to look out for then drop them in the comments below and I'll do an update. 

Tuesday, 9 February 2016



Last week my parents (above) celebrated their 43rd wedding anniversary. 

Really?! Honestly? Who even does that these days. Man, I barely managed 5 years (and 2 of those we were separated and living on different continents – that's how married we were). Anyway, this lasting marriage business got me wondering how it was possible. So I asked my mum and she reckons it's all in the choosing. 

These are her Top 7 Tips for Choosing a Spouse 


My mum's father and my dad's grandfather were bosom buddies all their lives. Though my mum and dad didn't meet until they were in their twenties and didn't marry until they were 26 and 31 respectively, they knew each other and each other's families inside out.


When Tom and I got married, we'd known each other for about 5 months and were still very charmed by how very different we were.. He is super organised. I'm flighty like a chicken. Those same differences quickly came back to bite us in the bum.


My parents both came from working class backgrounds. They were raised modestly and taught a whole lot of honesty, reliability, emotional generosity, kindness, tolerance and respect. When it came to choosing a life's partner, those are the traits they looked for, because those are the traits they'd seen their parents practise to make married life work.


They don't need to practice the same as you or to the same degree that you do, but at least you'd have the same faith in common. I'm a Muslim, Tom is a lapsed Christian who embraced Islam to marry me. A short while into our marriage and faith became a big nail in our marriage coffin.


My mum is fiery, is involved in every committee in the area and loves being in the thick of things. My dad ruminates and loved the solitude of fishing when he was still able to fish. They adapted to marriage and to each other, clashed mightily, and yet never put pressure on one other to be anything other than themselves. 


Looks fade and desires change so choose someone you enjoy talking to and who enjoys talking to you. Couples often identify lack of communication as the main reason for their marriage breakup. 43 years later and my parents still talk deep into the night about everything.


So many couples go into marriage assuming that their partner wants children as much as they do, and are bitterly disappointed when it turns out to not be the case. Often the disappointment is too great to bear and the marriage falls apart. The same applies to money matters - how you will handle it, and who will take care of what. Prevent future disillusionment and be transparent about what you expect. 

Looking back, I wish I'd known or listened to my mum when she was trying to guide me. But hindsight is, as they say, an exact science and we live and learn. 

If you have any great tips for choosing a spouse then drop them in the comment section below. And if you liked this, then Like and Subscribe to receive more. 

On to Happiness!



My radiant mum and her proud dad entering the wedding venue